I read an article on Facebook, posted by a friend who had read it from another friend, who probably read it from yet another friend. It was captured from Psychology Today, titled ‘What A Female Mid-Life Crisis Looks Like’,written by Marcia Reynolds, Psy.D.
I’m female. I’m mid-life (hopefully a little less than mid, but certainly in that window if I live an average life span). I decided to give the article a looks-y, figuring I might relate to a few points. Has what I’ve been feeling over the past two years–the frustrating months of being despondent that I had not accomplished more, the mourning of the loss of time–been the experience of a mid-life crisis?
“These women have not faced a crisis, but they are facing a mid-life quest for identity. . . . .For smart, goal-driven women, a mid-life crisis isn’t about recovering lost youth. It’s about discovering the application of their greatness. The problem is that no one has defined what “greatness” looks like so the quest has no specific destination. Having the goal of “being great” is as hard to define as it is to achieve. There is always “the next great thing” to master, which may leave them feeling incomplete. I have come to call this phenomenon the “Burden of Greatness.”
Marcia was writing about me! Alright, I know that might sound a tad egotistical and certainly self-centered, but it was enlightening to discover that my experience seems to be a shared experience. It was humbling, liberating, encouraging.
She suggests exploring some key questions with friends who might be going through a similar experience. So, on Marcia’s advice, I’ll feature four questions in four different blog posts. Please comment and share your experience, passing on your wisdom to other women who are in need of connection. The first post will go up on Thursday, May 19th.
Finally, Marcia ended her article with the same words that have been going through my heart since I began this journey.
“. . . .It is okay to question your life’s purpose. It’s okay to say, ‘I don’t know who I am’. It is better to ask the questions and seek the answers than to live a numb life.
“Sometimes you have to lose yourself to find yourself. Some call this a mid-life crisis; I call it the Heroine’s Journey.”