Heroine’s Journey Through A Mid-Life Crisis

I read an article on Facebook, posted by a friend who had read it from another friend, who probably read it from yet another friend. It was captured from Psychology Today, titled ‘What A Female Mid-Life Crisis Looks Like’,written by Marcia Reynolds, Psy.D.

Marcia Reynolds, Psy.D

I’m female. I’m mid-life (hopefully a little less than mid, but certainly in that window if I live an average life span). I decided to give the article a looks-y, figuring I might relate to a few points. Has what I’ve been feeling over the past two years–the frustrating months of being despondent that I had not accomplished more, the mourning of the loss of time–been the experience of a mid-life crisis?

“These women have not faced a crisis, but they are facing a mid-life quest for identity. . . . .For smart, goal-driven women, a mid-life crisis isn’t about recovering lost youth. It’s about discovering the application of their greatness. The problem is that no one has defined what “greatness” looks like so the quest has no specific destination. Having the goal of “being great” is as hard to define as it is to achieve. There is always “the next great thing” to master, which may leave them feeling incomplete. I have come to call this phenomenon the “Burden of Greatness.”


Marcia was writing about me! Alright, I know that might sound a tad egotistical and certainly self-centered, but it was enlightening to discover that my experience seems to be a shared experience. It was humbling, liberating, encouraging.

She suggests exploring some key questions with friends who might be going through a similar experience. So, on Marcia’s advice, I’ll feature four questions in four different blog posts. Please comment and share your experience, passing on your wisdom to other women who are in need of connection. The first post will go up on Thursday, May 19th.

Finally, Marcia ended her article with the same words that have been going through my heart since I began this journey.

“. . . .It is okay to question your life’s purpose. It’s okay to say, ‘I don’t know who I am’.  It is better to ask the questions and seek the answers than to live a numb life.

“Sometimes you have to lose yourself to find yourself. Some call this a mid-life crisis; I call it the Heroine’s Journey.”


8 thoughts on “Heroine’s Journey Through A Mid-Life Crisis

  1. Being in the place of not knowing is a great place to be. From the bottom there is only way to go: up! What would it be like if you did know what you really wanted?! 🙂 And if you did know, what would it be?

  2. My problem isn’t so much my purpose, but people who block my journey. I know what it is to feel when I have accopmplished something for the good of others and me, like teaching. But when people who have low self esteem of themselves and that do not feel that they have accomplished anything start judging me, I have a problem with them. Life is hard enough without these negative people around.

  3. This is me now! lol. Thanks for sharing these insights. I like the quote about questioning being okay and better than living a numb life. :)Writing well also doesn’t allow one to be numb because we must delve into emotional truth…

  4. HI Karysa, This was so me about a year ago! That’s when I started writing among other things. I love how she defined it, a crisis of greatness. I was just waiting for the next great moment to happen instead of making it happen.
    Great post!

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